A Forever Wife

Another goal for this year (January's theme...goals for 2013...in no way original) is for my blog to mean something. I don't want it to just be a public journal about my life where I come to whine. Yes, I realize this is what I have done in the past, but I want this to be more than that this time around. I'd like to inspire people, or even just one person, do good things for others, express my feelings and share the life lessons I learn along the way. And I'm sure I will learn many a lesson. The goal I'm touching on today is being a better wife in 2013...and forever. Being married is not always easy (cliche, sorry). I mean, I know I've only been married for a year and a half, so I'm still in the "easy" phase where we're all googly-eyed, but marriage presents its own set of life challenges (lesson learned). I touched a bit on this when talking about our move to Texas. It is incredibly hard to make any big decisions, the other person must ALWAYS be considered. I still sometimes worry that he may resent me someday for taking him away from a great job he loved and incredible friends and clients, but on the flip side, I wasn't happy. My friends from college were either no longer in touch or had moved to another country. My best friends all lived in different states and Jordan's and my parents were in Texas. My job was...not terrible, certainly not great, but definitely not where I wanted to be long term. The only thing keeping me there were my wonderful grandparents (who I miss EVERY SINGLE DAY) and Jordan, but he had to be taken into consideration. Obviously things worked out and I find comfort in Isaiah 30:21 as referenced in an earlier post. And Jordan was incredible through the entire thing. He knew I wasn't happy and therefore, considered my feelings and opinions. I trust that God has some amazing plans for us, and take comfort in that as well. This is the only big event that has occurred in our marriage so far, I know there will be more, but we can handle what's thrown our way. (1 Corinthians 10:13.) The point is, it is important to rememeber that just SAYING your vows are not the ONLY thing that keeps a marriage going. You don't just make those promises the day you say "I do". You have to live those vows every single day, and people forget this. I know this may be hard to take from a newly married person, but I'm optimistic about our future as a couple, not to mention I have some incredible examples to follow. My parent's have been married 30 years, my grandparents almost 60 (and by almost, I mean 59 years this March). Every single day is work from both partners for the sake of the relationship. It's a balancing act for sure. So, to expand my thoughts, opinions and theories, February's posts will mostly regard marriage from the newly wed stand point. My goal is to find books, scriptures, articles, etc. on being the best wife and person I can be. I want to be a forever wife.